mercredi 13 mai 2015

5 Reasons Sony Doesn't Need To Remake 'The Craft'

In completely unnecessary remake news, Sony is remaking the 1996 cult-classic "The Craft."

The original movie starred Robin Tunney, Fairuza Balk, Neve Campbell and Rachel True as a group of misfit teens who practice witchcraft for personal gain, before everything ultimately spirals out of control.

According to The Hollywood Reporter, the studio has tapped filmmaker Leigh Janiak to write and direct the film, which really has no reason to be remade for the following reasons:

1. The film was the pinnacle of '90's fashion.

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The clothes are half of the reason to watch the "The Craft" in the first place.

2. It's a perfect primer for the timeless sleepover game Light As Feather, Stiff As A Board.

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What? You never tried it?

3. High school bullies haven't changed in the last 19 years.
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Technology may be different, but being mean is a constant.

4. This:
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5. Fairuza Balk as Nancy.
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Seriously, who are they going to cast in the remake? Selena Gomez?

That's all.

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The 10 Most Dangerous Phrases In A Relationship

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You're on your best behavior when you first start dating someone: polite to a fault, quick to suggest sharing dessert (later, you enter "order your own!" territory), and really, truly careful about what you say.

Then, somewhere down the line, you get comfortable. A little more loose-lipped. You say things you don't mean.

An apology generally goes a long way, but some things said in the heat of the moment may be irreversibly damaging to your relationship. Below, 10 phrases you should banish from your argument arsenal.

1. Anything that begins with “you always” or “you never.”
There's no hope of having a productive conversation once you or your S.O. makes sweeping accusations against each other, said Virginia Gilbert, licensed marriage and family therapist.

"Uttering these words will immediately put the other person on the defensive. Instead of getting what you want, the two of you will spend the rest of the evening -- or the rest of your relationship -- debating who’s right. Instead, use 'I' statements. For instance, 'I feel that I’m usually the one to say 'I love you' and it would make me feel good if you could say it first sometimes.' Keeping the focus on your needs instead of pointing out your partner’s shortcomings -- as glaring as they may be -- invites an opportunity for positive change."

2. "Why do you want to do that? You never used to like to [fill in the blank]."
Healthy, long-lasting relationships involve two people who are able to grow together. You're different people than the ones you were when you first met, so don't freak out or assume there's some ulterior motive if your partner changes his or her habits.

“You each need room to grow," said relationship author and divorce attorney Christina Pesoli. "Just as you wouldn’t be threatened by him updating his wardrobe or growing a beard, you shouldn’t be threatened when he updates his hobbies, either. Developing a new interest isn’t a threat to your relationship, but your refusal to allow him or her to do so is. If you’re with someone who never tries anything new, your relationship will eventually grow stale. So as long as he’s not talking about learning to cook meth or joining ISIS, try embracing his new hobbies."

3. "You're overreacting!"
Related, equally annoying-as-hell phrases include: "You're being too sensitive." "Don't get so defensive!" "Calm down." Let one of these sentences slip and you'll more than likely find yourself in the proverbial dog house, said William J. Doherty, Ph.D., professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota.

"Saying this is a favorite of men trying to get women to stop being upset," he said. "It's never worked in human history, but why not keep trying? The problem is that when in the midst of being upset, no one thinks their feelings are unjustified, and thus they feel unheard and put down. It would make anyone madder."

4. “Mmmhmm. Mmmhmm. Wait -- what did you say?”
Think you've mastered the art of scrolling through Instagram while pretending to listen to your S.O. talk? Think again.

"Eventually, your partner will conclude that you’re not all that interested in what he has to say -- and it’s hard to argue with that," Pesoli said. "Talking to someone who doesn’t really care about what you’re saying can be hard on the ol’ self esteem -- especially when that someone is your significant other. Being too busy to listen every once in a while is understandable. Being too busy to listen all the time is a relationship killer."

5. "I told you so."
What, you thought we'd get through this list without including this classic example?

"Say 'I told you so' one too many times and pretty soon, resentment sets in," dating expert Marina Sbrochi said. "No one likes to be thought of as dumb. Try empathy instead and see how your relationship grows."

6. “Not tonight (or tomorrow night, or any night), honey."
You and your partner aren't always going to be on the same page when it comes to sex. You each should absolutely feel free to say, "Not really in the mood after that brick-sized carnitas burrito." But you don't want "not tonight, not ever" to become the norm.

"Defaulting to 'not tonight' is a bad habit to form," said Pesoli. "Physical intimacy is what makes your relationship with your significant other different than any of your other relationships; otherwise, the two of you are just roommates who may or may not have kids together. If the fire goes out in the bedroom, there’s no question that your relationship will be in peril. Making a little effort to have sex with your S.O. is almost always a good idea.

7. "What's wrong with you?"
Below-the-belt personal attacks have no place in a healthy, loving relationship. Your goal should be to prop your partner up and be his or her cheerleader in hard times, not to bring them down.

"If you find yourself saying something like 'Are you that stupid?' 'What kind of a parent does that?' or 'You're just like your mother,' you need to cease and desist," said marriage therapist Becky Whetstone.

8. "I don't believe you."
There are bound to be times when you suspect your partner is bending the truth a bit -- or a lot. It's how you relay your skepticism that will move you closer to discovering the whole story.

"Maybe you really do suspect he or she has feelings for someone else, for instance, but there's a better way to go about it than accusing your partner of lying," said Doherty. "Saying 'I don't believe you' is inflammatory and almost always backfires. A better version is this: 'I'm having trouble believing you are telling me the whole story.'"

9. "I want a divorce."
When you threaten to breakup or divorce, you're pulling out the big guns . You may have deep regrets about saying it later, but the damage is done. As idle as the threat may be, the message to your partner is loud and clear: you already have one foot out the door. And who wants to be in a relationship like that?

"Simply put, it's emotional blackmail," said Whetstone. "If what you say has a tone of 'if you don't do this, you'll pay or I'll leave,' it's eventually going to take a toll on your partner."

10. “If you really loved me, you'd..."
Nope. Stop right there. Your partner shouldn't ever feel pressured to do something he or she doesn't want to do to prove his or her love for you.

"There’s nothing like guilt combined with a stealthy ultimatum to drain the love right out of a relationship," said Gilbert. "Instead of trying to manipulate your partner, be transparent about what you want: 'I miss spending time with you and I’d like to have a regular date night' is a direct, non-confrontational approach that’s far more likely to get you the love you want than holding your partner hostage emotionally."

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These Gorgeous Photos Prove That There Are Far Worse Things Than Rain On Your Wedding Day

Denver couple Michael and Tami Mantia were supposed to have an outdoor wedding on Saturday, but Mother Nature had other plans.

The weather that May morning was beautiful, but by the afternoon, fog started rolling in. Then the rain came. By 8 p.m., it was snowing. The bride and groom had no choice but to move the festivities inside and embrace the change of plans.

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"As stressed as I was about the weather, plan B turned out to be better than we could have imagined and we would not change anything about the day!" the bride told The Huffington Post.

The newlyweds and their bridal party made the best of the less-than-optimal conditions and took their photos outside anyway. Photographer Daylene Wilson was behind the lens to capture the love and laughs.

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The pair -- who met three years ago on a mountain biking trip -- had their ceremony at the Hyatt Regency Denver and held the reception at Dorchester Social Eatery.

"They both went to huge [lengths] to make sure our night was unforgettable -- even with the weather," Tami said.

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"Only in Denver does something like this happen. It's just kind of crazy where you expect sun, but you see snow," Michael told Denver NBC affiliate KUSA.

H/T 9 News/KUSA

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Why 'Philanthropy Needs To Go Where Government Won't' To Protect Sex Workers

The health and safety of sex workers: It's not an issue most of us tend to think about every day, but it's yet another example of how marginalized populations are often left out of essential public policy discussions on subjects like health care, housing, education, and workforce development.

That's why we thought it would be a good idea to jump on the phone with some leaders in the field of health and safety for sex workers to find out what philanthropy is doing, and what philanthropy could do, about this segment of our community.

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How Being An Oldest, Middle Or Youngest Child Shapes Your Personality

Only children have a reputation for being perfectionists and high-achievers, constantly seeking attention and approval from their parents and from others.

But children with siblings, too, express unique personality types based on their birth order.

While a number of factors play a role in a child's development -- including genetics, environment and parenting -- birth order can also influence their defining traits and behaviors.

Since the 1970s, thousands of scientific studies on birth order have been conducted, but psychologists often disagree about how much of a role birth order actually plays in development. However, some common aspects of the personalities of oldest, middle and youngest children that are consistent across the literature.

Why do these differences occur? Many psychologists have suggested that siblings' personalities differ insofar as they adopt different strategies to win their parents' attention and favor. By this theory, the oldest child may be more likely to identify with authority and support the status quo, while younger children are more likely to seek attention by rebelling.

"Kids learn their role in their family," Dr. Kevin Leman, a psychologist and the author of The Birth Order Book and The First-Born Advantage, told The Huffington Post. "Firstborns are held to a higher standard. As kids come into the birth order, parents loosen up."

Here's more on what science says about the personalities of youngest, middle and oldest children:

Oldest Child

Firstborn children tend to be achievement-oriented, often performing well in school and thriving in leadership positions, according to Leman.

"Firstborns are the first of everything ... and they are the standard-bearers," Leman said, adding that most U.S. presidents have been firstborn or only children.

Indeed, there is a good deal of research to support this personality profile, including a 2012 paper reviewing more than 500 studies from the past 20 years. In the paper, psychologists from the University of Georgia showed that the firstborn child (or the one who has taken on the psychological role of the "eldest") is the most likely to hold leadership roles and to strive for achievement. A 2009 study published in the journal Child Development also found that firstborn children are more likely to conform -- which can manifest as seeking to please their parents and others by doing well in school or in work.

"Firstborns tend to be responsible, competitive and conventional, whereas laterborns have to 'distinguish' themselves and create a specific niche by being playful, cooperative, and especially, rebellious," Belgian psychologists Vassilis Saroglou and Laure Fiasse wrote in a 2003 paper published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences.

Youngest Child

The personalities of youngest children -- including the newest member of the British royal family, Her Royal Highness Princess Charlotte of Cambridge -- are distinctly different from the personalities of their older siblings.

Studies have shown that the baby of the family tends to be more creative, rebellious and attention-seeking. This makes sense, considering the way parenting can often change from the oldest to the youngest child. Mom and dad are often more hands-off and lenient once they've become more comfortable in their role as parents, and have gone through the process of raising a child at least once.

"Youngest children are manipulative, social, outgoing, great at sales. ... They got away with murder as kids and know how to get around people," Leman said.

While the baby may be prone to attention-seeking behaviors, one study noted that there does not appear to be a link between youngest children and delinquency or problem behavior, as is sometimes suggested.

Middle Child

The oldest child gets Mom and Dad's undivided attention, while the baby of the family can often get away with doing whatever they want. So where does that leave the middle child?

The middle child tends to be the family peace-keeper, Leman noted, and often possesses traits like agreeableness and loyalty.

A 2010 review of birth order literature also found that it's common for middle children to be sociable, faithful in their relationships and good at relating to both older and younger people.

Because middle children are often stuck in the middle, quite literally, they tend to be great negotiators and compromisers, Leman said.

"Middle children are tougher to pin down, but they tend to be very loyal and to highly value their friendships," he added.

What Parents Can Do

So how can parents help oldest, middle and youngest children thrive? A parent's most important job is to support a child's unique journey, according to child development expert Dr. Gail Gross.

"Children need to be allowed to find their destiny, whatever their role in the family may be," Gross advises parents in a HuffPost blog.

Leman advised honoring each child's unique differences and respecting their diverse strengths and challenges.

"Treat your kids differently," he said.

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Carla Gugino Is Glad To See Young Actresses Finally Getting 'Roles That Really Count'

Actress Carla Gugino told HuffPost Live on Monday that there have been some real changes in Hollywood since the beginning of her career. While many actresses have spoken out about the lack of roles for women over 40, 43-year-old Gugino said that in the past, options for younger actresses were just as limited.

When I was 25, all I wanted to do was be the age I am now because there were no really meaty great roles for young women. And now, you know, you have Jennifer Lawrence. You have Shailene Woodley. Brit Marling is so wonderful. You have really wonderful actresses who are young women coming into their own who are getting to have roles that really count and they're really filling that space.


As she told host Nancy Redd, Gugino has seen a lot of progress in the stories that women are telling on the big screen.

"We're in a space where women from an early age people are realizing there's a big story to tell there and there are a lot of people who want to see it," she said.

Watch the full HuffPost Live conversation with Carla Gugino here.

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Melissa Rivers On #AskHerMore: ‘No One Wants To Discuss Massive Policies On The Red Carpet'

Melissa Rivers doesn't find celebrity interviewers' proclivity to ask about red carpet fashions to be an offensive practice, she explained in a HuffPost Live interview on Wednesday.

"This whole thing 'Ask Me More' -- I get it, but let's keep it in perspective," she told host Caitlyn Becker, referring to #AskHerMore, a Twitter campaign started around the 2014 Emmys in hopes of increasing the volume of non-sartorial questions directed toward female celebs.

The "Fashion Police" executive producer and The Book of Joan: Tales of Mirth, Mischief and Manipulation author elaborated:

So you're getting $30-40,000 dresses for free. You're supposed to say the designer's name. But, if you want to go out and buy your dress, and not have to worry about anyone asking you about it, and not having to promote anyone, fine! Let's talk about something else! ... But no one really wants to discuss massive policies on the red carpet ... And you say, ask me about more than just my dress, okay: Did you pay for it?


It's not that Rivers is opposed to starlets talking about topics other than fashion on the red carpet; rather, she wants to avoid conversation about style developing a stigma.

"If there's something interesting going on or you want to get out a message -- absolutely," she said. "But let's not carry it so far that it's an insult to ask who you're wearing."

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Ronda Rousey On The Sexist Questions She's Asked As A Female UFC Fighter

In case her Olympic medal in Judo and UFC Women's Bantamweight Champion title didn't make it clear enough -- Ronda Rousey is not interested in your sexist bullsh*t.

The 28-year-old UFC fighter and actress spoke with HuffPost Live's Ricky Camilleri on May 13 about her new book My Fight / Your Fight. During their conversation Camilleri asked Rousey if she receives different types of questions than her male UFC counterparts. Her answer? A resounding yes.

"I'm definitely asked different kinds of questions. I don't see guys being asked about their personal lives all the time," she said. "You know what I'm asked all the time? 'You're single? Explain yourself! You have to explain yourself!' And I'm like why? Did I offend someone, am I doing something wrong?"

Rousey told Camilleri that when people ask her why she's single, she replies: "Because I'm busy running a multi-billion dollar corporation." Sounds like a great reason.

"I'm young, successful and I'm single. Why is that a bad thing?" she said. "I don't hear any of the guys being asked these questions. Because if they're young and successful and single everyone's like 'Baller! That guy is awesome, he's living the dream.' [The media] is never bugging them about that so why do I get bugged about it?"

Preach Ronda.

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You Won't Believe What Toni Braxton's Gynecologist Told Her To Do

Toni Braxton's gynecologist gave a very interesting recommendation to the singer recently: Use it or lose it.

"My gynecologist told me, 'Toni, you need to start using your vagina more,'" the 47-year-old singer told the ladies of "The View" earlier this week.

Yep, she went there.

On Wednesday, Braxton stopped by HuffPost Live and gave some backstory on the anecdote.

"I said that out loud, didn't I?" she said, laughing. "I need to start dating. I've been divorced almost two years and I haven't really meant anyone I've liked yet, so I haven't really been out there."

Braxton finalized her divorce from Keri Lewis in 2013, after 12 years of marriage and two sons.

Part of the reason she's remained single since then? Guys just aren't stepping up.

"You know, interestingly [guys] really don't approach me," Braxton told HuffPost Live's Nancy Redd. "They'll say 'hi,' or 'I love your work' or 'I'd love to get together some time' but they never really follow it through."

Watch the clip above for more on Braxton's post-divorce life -- or head here to watch the full HuffPost Live interview.


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Samantha Bee Is 'Female As F--k' In Promo For New Late-Night TV Show

We've all had enough sausage, if sausage means male late night hosts. In the first promo for her new satirical news TV show, debuting on TBS, Samantha Bee puts her late night contemporaries on blast. “I think I’m kind of done with sausages," she says as Jimmy Fallon, Carson Daley, James Oliver, Seth Meyers and James Corden's faces stare back at her. "And I am female as fuck."

In March, TBS announced Bee as host and executive producer of her own show, with co-executive producer Jason Jones, Bee's husband and a former "Daily Show" correspondent as well.

"Like her fans around the country, we absolutely adore everything about Sam, from her straight-faced sarcasm and ruthless wit to her uncanny ability to mine comedy gold from just about any awkward situation," the network said at the time. "After watching Sam's work for years, we knew that her distinctive humor and talent belong at the front of her own show." So did we.

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After Digging Herself Out Of Rubble, Nepal Earthquake Survivor Delivers Healthy Baby Boy

Dolma Tamang will have an incredible story to tell her son one day.

On Wednesday, the 28-year-old gave birth to a healthy baby boy -- two weeks after she dug herself out of the rubble of the Nepal earthquake, according to the British Red Cross.

Tamang was "heavily pregnant" when a magnitude-7.8 earthquake hit Nepal April 25. Tamang's house collapsed on top of her, the BBC reports.

Tamang had reportedly sustained injuries and was unsure of how to get help in the aftermath of the quake.

"I was so worried about the baby that I did not care about my own health, even though I had wounds everywhere and had trouble breathing," Tamang told BBC.

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Dolma Tamang's "miracle baby" born two weeks after April's devastating Nepal earthquake buried the pregnant mother in the wreckage of her collapsed home.

Two weeks later, as Tamang was going into labor, a team of Japanese clinicians working with a mobile unit found her and took her to a Red Cross clinic in Melamchi, a village in central Nepal, according to the British Red Cross.

"Even though we lost almost all of our belongings and live in a temporary shelter, I could not be happier and more thankful for this little miracle," Tamang said. "This baby being born healthy is a sign of hope and second life for our whole family."

Babies born on the day of the deadly earthquake have been a small glimmer of hope to the families whose communities have been devastated by the disaster.

Ranjita Shreshta, a 27-year-old housewife who gave birth to a daughter hours before the quake, told The Huffington Post in April, "In years to come, I will tell her, 'You were given a life when others had theirs taken away.'"

More than 8,000 people were killed in the massive April earthquake that caused landslides and leveled buildings. On Wednesday, another quake struck the region, leaving another 70-plus dead, NPR reports.

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Kenya Moore 'Devastated' After Learning Millionaire Matchmaker Contestant's Marriage

People Who Are Anti-Abortion Are Also Sexist, Worrying Study Finds

A new study has found a link between sexism and anti-abortion attitudes.

PhD candidate Stephanie Begun and professor N. Eugene Walls published a study in the May 2015 issue of peer-reviewed journal Affilia: Journal of Women and Social Work linking sexist attitudes with anti-abortion sentiment, and proving no one is crazy for thinking that lack of access to abortion services have a lot to do with sexism.

Begun used data gathered from a previous survey of 651 undergraduate students from six universities, 70 percent or whom were female and 30 percent male. Analyzing their responses to a series of online surveys, she looked at three potential predictors of anti-choice attitudes: Hostile sexism, benevolent sexism, and combined scores of hostile and benevolent sexism together. Research suggests that benevolent sexism pigeonholes women into roles as nurturers and caregivers, and that women who seek abortions fail to live up to this ideal, hence the connection between benevolent sexism and abortion.

Participants were asked how much they agreed with "benevolent" sexist statements like "in a disaster, women ought to be rescued before men" and "a good woman should be set on a pedestal by her man," as well as hostile sexist statements like "women are too easily offended" and "feminists are seeking for women to have more power over men."

"The results showed that as people increasingly endorsed hostile sexist views, they were statistically significantly more likely to hold anti-choice abortion attitudes," Begun told The Huffington Post. "The same was true for people who endorse benevolent sexist views of women -- and to the exact same degree as those who endorsed hostile sexist views."

Those who scored highly on the combined scale of benevolent and hostile sexism were even more likely to hold anti-abortion views, which Begun told HuffPost "[shows] that both types of [sexism] are dangerous to supporting a woman's right to choose, and even more dangerous when both forms are endorsed."

These results held true across gender lines, showing just how nuanced sexism can be -- and explaining why the fight for a woman's right to choose is so complicated.

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Artist Captures Compiles Photos And Letters From Great Loves That Have Lasted Over 50 Years

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Some love stories last a lifetime, but many go unseen, unheard and undocumented.

England-based American photographer Lauren Fleishman found the inspiration for her recent book, "The Lovers," when she stumbled upon a treasure trove of love letters written from her grandfather to her grandmother during World War II. "The letters were able to show me a side of my grandfather that I hadn’t known," she told The Huffington Post. "Him as a young man, filled with the joy of being a newlywed."

Fleishman was struck by the passion and power of her grandparents' love, an invisible and indestructible force that had persisted and expanded over the course of decades. Many of the letters contained nuggets of emotion that, despite being written long ago and far away, still rung true to the artist. "In one of the love letters, my grandfather wrote to my grandmother, 'I love you with all my heart, and will continue to do so for the rest of my life.' As a young woman, it was the type of sentiment I could understand and relate to," Fleishman said.

The letters encouraged Fleishman to dig up more histories of love, seeking out and documenting the stories of other long-married couples. Thus "The Lovers," a compilation of stories and images of relationships lasting over 50 years throughout Europe and the United States, was born. "I think anyone who has been in a relationship for over 50 years has a lot to offer in terms of reflections and advice," Fleishman explained. "My hope is that this work connects people of many generations."

Preview "The Lovers," available via Schilt Publishing:

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Yevgeniy and Lyubov Kissin married on June 29, 1941

Yevgeniy: "We met at a dancing party. It was in January 1938. My friend invited me to the party, he said there would be a lot of beautiful young girls. Another cadet with high boots had approached her, but she didn’t like high boots and so she said no to him. I was the second one to approach her. I had a different uniform, but I’m still not sure if it was my uniform or my face that attracted her to me."


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Jake and Mary Jacobs married on April 27, 1948

Mary: "Jake said to me, 'Would it ever be possible for me to marry you?' And I said, 'Possible, but not probable!' And that’s how it was. It wasn’t likely that I would ever marry him, and he knew that. So when he went home to Trinidad, my mother and father breathed a sigh of relief. But he used to write, and he said, 'I’m thinking I might come back to England.'"


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Joseph and Dorothy Bolotin married on June 16, 1938

Dorothy: "I never think of it in terms of years. I think of it in terms of good years. In love, hot romance doesn’t last forever. So I would say that yes, I think love changes. I would say we’re still in love. We still love each other. It’s focusing, doing little things. He’s an amazing man."


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Gino and Angie Terranova married on September 27, 1947

Angie: "You really don’t think about getting older. First of all, you’re aging together, and when you see a person constantly, you don’t notice big changes. Like you don’t notice, 'Oh, you’re getting a little wrinkle here,' and tomorrow you say it’s a little deeper. No, those are things that just happen. You don’t pay attention to those things. I mean, I’m not thinking every day, 'Oh, my husband’s 83 years old, he’s gonna be 84, oh my goodness, I’m married to an old man!' And I hope he feels that way too."


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Yaakov and Mariya Shapirshetyn married on July 6, 1949

Yaakov: "What is the secret to love? A secret is a secret, and I don’t reveal my secrets."

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Melissa Rivers' Favorite Tribute To Mom Joan Was Surprisingly By Courtney Love

Countless celebrities, from the likes of Barbara Walters to Sarah Silverman, spoke out in sorrow after the untimely death of famed comedienne Joan Rivers back in September 2014.

But there were a few tributes in particular that struck the eye of Rivers' daughter, Melissa, she revealed in a conversation with HuffPost Live on Wednesday: specifically, the ones offered by her mother's "Fashion Police" victims.

"I loved seeing that outpouring from these women, especially the ones who took the heat on 'Fashion Police,'" she told host Caitlyn Becker, "Because it meant they got it. It meant they loved her. It meant they saw the humor."

She cited common "Fashion Police" subject Courtney Love's post as being her favorite, saying "something along the lines of ... 'I haven't finished looking like a mess yet. You can't be gone!'"

"And Katy Perry's," she continued, "Which was, 'What's the point of wearing all these stupid outfits if Joan isn't around to criticize them?'"

"[They] understood that it wasn't personal and that it was funny and the fact that we could talk about you and joke about you meant you were relevant," said Melissa.

In regards to complaints that "Fashion Police" was too mean-spirited, the Book of Joan: Tales of Mirth, Mischief, and Manipulation author had this to say:

"Oh my God, if we're able to make a joke [about you], think about where you are in your career! That's huge."

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Essence Festival To Hold A ‘Peace, Prayer And Purpose Rally' To Honor, Declare Black Lives Matter

There’s a lot happening at this year’s Essence Festival.

The annual four-day event is expanding programming and will honor black lives by enriching the conversation around the injustices they face, as well as examining the purpose behind the Black Lives Matter movement.

“This is a moment where we really have an opportunity to serve our community in a very different way and we're taking it,” Vanessa K. De Luca, Essence’s Editor-in-Chief, told The Huffington Post.

This year, Essence is empowering attendees with a "Peace, Power and Purpose Rally" to draw support and awareness around many of the issues faced by black women, black men and their families. The announcement, released Tuesday, is just another example of the publication’s commitment to using their platform as a way to raise the voices and concerns of individuals who are often under- and mis- represented.

“What better place than the festival to bring harsh conversations to light and deliver solutions?” De Luca said.

Last year’s festival drew more than 500,000 attendees and marked a momentous occasion for the magazine as it celebrated its 20-year-anniversary. This year's festival is taking a more serious note in light of events that have transpired among the black community in the last year.

The programs De Luca and her team have planned are part of the Essence Empowerment Experience, which includes a Mayor's Panel with representatives from communities countrywide, a prayer vigil and a keynote speech from Sybrina Fulton, the mother of slain teenager Trayvon Martin.

“There are so many moms like Sybrina Fulton who have figured out how to bring positive outcomes out of tragedy and we want to highlight that,” DeLuca said.

While DeLuca and her team work to address these issues, they are helping to solve another by highlighting the voices of black women amid a national debate that often excludes them.

“There are women’s voices represented throughout the weekend and I have no doubt that they’ll address the very real issue around how people are looking at social justice affecting black women,” De Luca said. “I think that's going to be critical.”

Those expected to attend this year's festival are noted artists and speakers like Iyanla Vanzant, Donna Brazile, Rev. Al Sharpton, Deepak Chopra, Rev. Al Sharpton, Steve Harvey, Kendrick Lamar, Common and Erykah Badu, among others.

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13 Foods That Are Trendier Than Major Celebrities, According to Google

Food and celebrities have a lot in common. People care about them, some shine brighter than others (in recipes and films, respectively), and of course, they can both go in and out of style.

Upon further investigation, it turns out that even some of the most popular celebrities are less popular than certain foods -- at least when it comes to what people are Googling, anyway. We used Google Trends data to settle some very important debates from over the past year, such as: is cauliflower cooler than Mindy Kaling? Is anything cooler than Beyoncé? (No, if you ask us, but yes if you ask Google.)

Watch as these celebs and trendy foods go head-to-head. Some put up a good fight and others don't stand a chance, but all are pretty hilarious.

The values in the graphs below reflect the number of searches relative to the amount of searches over time, presented on a scale of 0-100, instead of the actual number value of searches. For more help reading the graphs, head over to Google.

Kale > Cara Delevingne



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Delevingne peaked above kale once during the week of November 30, 2014, likely due to her winning model of the year at the British Fashion Awards. Other than that, kale is the clear winner.

Avocado > Michelle Obama



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But you'll always be No. 1 in our book, FLOTUS.

Cupcakes > Kanye West



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During the week of February 8, 2015, Yeezy managed to rise above the beloved cupcake, likely because of that little incident with Beck at the Grammys.

Coffee > Beyoncé



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It's hard to believe anything is more popular than Queen Bey. She beat out the caffeinated goodness after her epic VMA performance during the week of August 24, 2014, but has been steadily less popular than coffee ever since.

Chocolate > Lena Dunham



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Oof. Not even close. Sorry, Lena.

Eggs > Reese Witherspoon:



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This one was over easy.

Nutella > Kristen Wiig



nutella and kristen

Wiig is sweet, but not sweet enough.

Chicken > Madonna



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Sorry, Madge, but it looks like we're actually living in a chicken's world.

Pizza > Katy Perry



pizza and katy

But we're sure she probably has a pizza outfit somewhere in her wardrobe that could help her compete.

Cheese > Rihanna



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She beat out everyone's favorite food after showing up to the CFDA awards in this, but not even Ri is more popular than brie.

Coconut Oil > Tina Fey



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Wait, seriously?

Cauliflower > Mindy Kaling



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We refuse to believe this.

BONUS:

Bacon > Kevin Bacon



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This one was obvious for more reasons than one, and therefore had to be done.

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P!nk Responds To Body-Shamers: 'I'm Tougher Than Nails. But I'm A Human Being.'

P!nk just shut down the haters. Again.

On May 12 at the BMI Pop Awards, the 35-year-old singer discussed her recent (and epic) response to body shamers with Entertainment Tonight. "I don't take well to bullying, I never have," P!nk said.

She said she's not one to back down from a bully, but she also has feelings -- just like everyone else. "I'm not a person that will be bullied. I'm not a person that will stand by and watch other people bullied," P!nk told ET. "I think that I'm also raising a girl. I am a girl. I have feelings. People think that I take no shit and that I'm tough, I'm tougher than nails. But I'm a human being."

"I think people have gotten it wrong, they think their opinion matters and holds weight," she said. "And I don't know why they're giving themselves so much credit. So I thought it was important to remind them that I don't care. My life is full, I like food a lot -- I really like to cook, I like to live. I find joy in that and we're doing all right in the Hart household."

Towards the end of the interview P!nk said she shakes off the haters with a good sense of humor. "While you shouldn't hide your feelings or run from pain or numb yourself down I still think it's really important to laugh at all of it," she said.

Go on with your badass self, P!nk.

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Many Women In The Arab World Are Highly Educated, But Underemployed

By EMILY CADEI, OZY

If you were asked to name countries where women vastly outnumber men in higher education, somewhere in the ultra-traditional Arab world would probably not be your first guess. And yet, in tiny Qatar, the oil-rich peninsula jutting off Saudi Arabia into the Persian Gulf, nearly seven times as many women as men are enrolled in university, one of the highest rates on the planet, according to the most recent figures compiled by the World Bank.

In fact, Maysa Jalbout, a fellow at the Brookings Institution’s Center for Universal Education, calculated recently that across the Arab world, women slightly outnumber men in tertiary education, with a female-to-male enrollment ration of 108 percent.

Surprisingly, it’s not a brand-new trend. Paolo Verme, a World Bank expert on the Middle East and North Africa, tells OZY that women there have made “huge gains” in the last decade or so in obtaining secondary and tertiary education. Fertility rates have also gone down rapidly across the region in the 21st century. And GDP growth has been on the rise. These are all prerequisites for women entering the workplace, at least based on what economists have found from studying other countries that now have high levels of female employment. So if all of this is happening in Arab countries, why are there still so few women working there?

As Jalbout points out, “Three out of four Arab women remain outside the labor force” — the lowest in the world. That’s true whether they’re college graduates or relatively uneducated. In fact, Verme and two colleagues found that in Morocco, the likelihood of women having a job went down with a high school-level education. He thinks there are a couple different factors at play.

The first is economic — the economies in the region may be growing, but not in the sectors most likely to employ women, like services and light manufacturing. And then there are the social norms. Verme has found that women in the region may get jobs early on, but exit the labor force en masse around the age of 25, aka average marriage age, regardless of whether or not they have children then. Family structures, still quite traditional, have a lot to do with it, says Mayyada Abu-Jaber, founder of the Jordan-based education NGO The World of Letters. In her work conducting youth employment-training programs, she found that more than half of female participants would decline the jobs offered upon completion. Deciding to work was a “collective decision of the family,” she found, and most families decide the vocational job opportunities “are not desirable for women.”

And while norms have shifted when it comes to the value of educating girls, they’ve not yet hit the women’s lib end of the spectrum. Education, notes Abu-Jabber, is now “very important for women” in Jordan, but not as a “transition for the workplace as much as it is becoming more desirable for marriage.” That helps explain why women with secondary education are less likely to work — they’re more likely to marry an educated man with a job that can support them both.

Verme cautions against concluding this all goes back to Muslim society. Look at the high female employment in places like Indonesia or Malaysia, which are majority Muslim. She says gender norms and social structure issues are important to the extent that the economy is weak. “I’m convinced if a country like Morocco was really able to compete in light manufacturing globally, all these other constraints would progressively disappear.”

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Sybrina Fulton Lends Voice To Art Exhibit: 'I Have To Be A Spokesperson For The Voiceless'

Sybrina Fulton, mother of the slain teenager Trayvon Martin, spoke on a panel discussion in Los Angeles at Manifest Justice, an art activist showcase focused on the theme of social inequality.

"When I pick myself up off that floor and I opened my hand full of tears, I told myself, you can do better than this, you can do more than this, and I got up from there that day and I decided that I have to be a spokesperson for people that can't speak. I have to be a spokesperson for the voiceless. My son is not here to speak for himself, I am Trayvon Martin," she told a packed house.

Visitors unable to find seats or standing room in the lecture hall stood in stairwells and adjoining exhibit rooms to listen to Ms. Fulton's voice over the speaker system.

Her son, Trayvon Martin was shot and killed by George Zimmerman in a case that came into the national and global spotlight. Fulton has now become a spokesperson promoting awareness about violent crimes and their effects on families and communities. She also speaks passionately about racial profiling and human civility.

"You will pull your car over to help an animal that's being injured before you will help another human being than I'm speaking to you, I'm speaking to you, because it's about awareness, because it's about admitting when we have a problem," Fulton said.

Her son, Trayvon, was shot unarmed after Zimmerman claimed he acted in self-defense during a confrontation in a neighborhood in Sanford, Florida.

Zimmerman, a neighborhood watch volunteer, followed and stopped the teenager because he thought he was suspicious. He was acquitted of murder in February of this year.

The pop-up exhibit, presented by Sons & Brothers in partnership with Amnesty International, is a collection of pieces by over 150 artists including Sandow Birk, Jordan Weber, Jerome Lagarrigue, Jim Darling and Michael D'Antuono.

Art, as a the tip of the spear for social change, is the goal of organizers and participants reacting to indignation following the deaths of Trayvon Martin in Florida, Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri and Eric Garner in New York.

A series of fatal police confrontations across the country have put law enforcement agencies under scrutiny over the use of force, especially against minorities, the poor and the mentally ill.

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21 Style Struggles Men Will Never Understand

We're all aware of some of the injustices women face on a day-to-day basis -- whether it be lack of equal pay, cat-calling or simply longer bathroom lines.

Then there are the fashion and beauty struggles that women constantly deal with while our male counterparts remain naive and clueless. Below, we've rounded up some of the most frustrating and stressful style nuisances that complicate women's everyday lives.

1. Feeling nervous when walking over a sidewalk grate when in a skirt or heels.
No one wants an unplanned Marilyn moment or to lose the heel of a shoe.

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2. The struggle to conceal your bra.
If you're wearing a spaghetti strap top, there's basically no hope of hiding your bra straps.

3. Then there's a whole other demon: Chicken cutlets.
Having to apply them, keep them on and make sure they remain adhesive for multiple wears.

4. Dealing with lipstick.
Worrying about it smudging, getting on your teeth or fading in awkward places.

lipstick

5. Going to the bathroom in a jumpsuit or romper.
Wearing a one-piece means having to get practically naked to pee.

6. Constantly worrying that your bathing suit could expose X-rated body parts at any moment.
Adjusting. Always adjusting.

7. Lugging around a change of comfy shoes.
Necessary for commutes or impending blisters when you're wearing heels.

comfortable shoes

8. Wearing Spanx.
No explanation necessary.

9. Applying boob tape to shirts that could reveal more than you're willing to flaunt.
Men: have you ever had to physically tape your clothing to a body part? Didn't think so.

10. Flaunting tight skinny jeans that look way better than they feel.
Constricting and unyielding do not make for a comfortable getup.

skinny jeans

11. Long hair + lip gloss + wind.
Having hair stuck to your lips is honestly unbearable.

12. Worrying about getting makeup stains on your clothes.
We learn very quickly to always apply foundation after you get dressed.

13. Wearing a thong.
A man may have created the thong, but men have no clue how uncomfortable it is to have a piece of fabric between your cheeks.

thong

14. Having a general lack of pockets.
And when you do have one, it's not big enough to fit any of the essentials, like your phone or wallet.

15. Learning to be ambidextrous to paint your nails.
We should seriously be able to put this on our resumes.

16. Having to carry a purse at all times -- which inevitably leads to sore shoulders.
...and always being asked to carry any guy friends' extra items.

purse

17. Being paranoid about tripping over your own maxi dress or skirt.
Every step is a struggle.

18. Wearing white while on your period.
Men will never understand the perpetual panic and inspections.

19. Maternity clothing.
Buying clothes that are only necessary for a couple months ... lucky us.

maternity

20. Being incapable of wearing an item of clothing because you haven't shaved.
Shorts, skirts, dresses and tank tops are off-limits if your legs and armpits aren't freshly shaven.

21. Spending more money for women's versions of the same products men buy.
Enough said.

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Former Bling Ring Member Alexis Neiers Is Now A Doula

Former "Pretty Wild" star and member of the Bling Ring, Alexis Neiers, has left her breaking and entering days behind her and can now help you deliver your baby.

Neiers gave birth to her daughter back in 2013, and tells Ravishly she was inspired to become a doula after she didn't have the home birth she wanted, but rather a C-section.

"The way pregnant women are treated is a huge feminist issue that’s not talked about. Now I work with mommies to help them through the labor, delivery and pregnancy they desire to have," the 23-year-old explained. "Natural childbirth is not for everybody. I like to call myself 'the balanced doula.' I’m not against epidurals. I’m not against hospital births. But I am pro-informed consent and having full knowledge of alternatives."

Neiers must be really busy because she's also apparently working with alcoholics and addicts in various ways, and previously worked as a drug counselor after she kicked her own habit.

Neiers also reflected on her Bling Ring days, telling Ravishly, "It was the best thing that ever happened to me."

"At the time I was filming (reality show, 'Pretty Wild'), my addiction skyrocketed because of the amount of funds I had to use and party. So, I went from smoking one Oxycontin a day, to smoking 20 a day with my sister," the former reality star explained. "My disease progressed and I was in no way capable of fighting the case. I was incapable of growing up, but it just wasn’t because of the drugs, it was because of deep-rooted trauma. I was masking that for so many years."

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15 Songs To Get You Through The Darkest Phase Of A Breakup

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When I went through my first major breakup, I let myself go to a very dark, heartbroken place. Consolations like, "You'll get over it eventually" or "At least now you know what you want from a relationship," meant nothing to me. I just wanted to sit at home, lean into the pain and listen to the most depressing music I could find.

The thing is, all of those miserable songs actually made me feel better. It was as if Karen Carpenter, Elliott Smith and Otis Redding were giving me permission to just feel sad. I didn't have to make intentionally distracting social plans or download Tinder or do anything resembling "moving on." I could just lie upside-down in my bed and let myself wallow in pure, musical catharsis.

My playlist may not work for everyone, but hopefully the songs will give a few heartbroken people something to cling to until they reach the empowered, Gloria Gaynor phase of newfound singledom -- sort of like musical morphine for the pain.

(Scroll down for the Spotify playlist version.)

1. "Goodbye To Love" by The Carpenters
There's something particularly relatable about Karen Carpenter's buttery, "aching alto" declaring that she'll never be loved -- it's the kind of melodrama that speaks to a newly broken heart.

2. "Somebody That I Used To Know" by Elliott Smith
Hearing Smith's fingers slide between the frets on his guitar is such an intimate listening experience that you almost feel as if he's in the room with you and you're not completely alone in your temporary hopelessness.

3. "Lonesome Town" by Ricky Nelson
The title says it all.

4. "I Was The One" by Elvis Presley
It's never too early to start taking credit for all the good things your ex learned from you.

5. "These Arms Of Mine" by Otis Redding
The way Redding yearns and begs for someone's love is just the right amount of pitiful.

6. "Can't Nobody Love You" by The Zombies
The Zombies' version of this song is understated, but it still strikes a sad, emotional chord.

7. "Superstar" by Sonic Youth
This cover gives the heartbroken the best of both bands: Sonic Youth's all-consuming instrumentals and the Carpenters' devastating lyrics.

8. "Ripchord" by Rilo Kiley
This song was said to be written in response to Elliott Smith's suicide, but it evokes a feeling of overwhelming loss that's relatable to those falling out of love.

9. "Between The Bars" by Madeleine Peyroux
This Elliott Smith cover elicits a totally different kind of angst than the original, but it's just as powerful.

10. "You're On My Mind" by The Animals
Three words: haunting organ music.

11. "Left Alone" by Fiona Apple
When she sings, "How can I ask anyone to love me when all I do is beg to be left alone?" it feels incisively spot-on.

12. "But Not For Me" by Chet Baker
This classic Gershwin jazz standard perfectly sums up the feeling that love is some exclusive club that you'll never be a part of.

13. "What'll I Do" by Nancy Sinatra
For those days when the future just seems bleak and uncertain.

14. "Don't Look Back In Anger" by Devendra Banhart
This Oasis song isn't about love -- or anything, apparently -- but Banhart's cover is the perfect amount of sad for a post-breakup haze.

15. "Don't Think Twice, It's Alright" by Bob Dylan
"Goodbye's too good a word, gal, so I'll just say fare thee well." Amen.

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The States With The Most Stay-At-Home Fathers




Not too long ago, it was practically unheard of for a father to raise his children full-time instead of working for money. In the 1970s, only six U.S. men identified themselves as stay-at-home parents. Not 6 percent -- six men, in the entire country.

Last year, by contrast, an estimated 1.9 million fathers remained home with the kids -- accounting for 16 percent of the stay-at-home parent population, according to a HuffPost analysis of U.S. Census data.

That’s definitely a huge step forward for fathers seeking to shed the stigma that still lingers around the idea of a man as primary caretaker. But the figure comes with a significant caveat: Most fathers aren't staying home voluntarily. According to one prominent researcher, 80 percent of those 1.9 million dads would be working outside the home if they could.

The reasons why any parent might stay home are complex and often very personal. The job market is certainly a factor, but the cost of child care and cultural issues also likely play a key role, says Noelle Chesley, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee who has researched stay-at-home fathers.

The Huffington Post took a state-by-state look at men as stay-at-home caregivers, as seen in the map and table in this article. We found some instances where high proportions of dad caregivers seemed to correspond with high unemployment rates. In West Virginia, for example, where men account for an estimated 30 percent of stay-at-home parents, the unemployment rate is 6.6 percent -- well above the national average of 5.4 percent -- and the percentage of adults who are employed is the lowest in the nation.

Yet elsewhere, the correlation did not hold. In South Dakota, for example, 39 percent of stay-at-home parents are fathers, but unemployment is comparatively low.

The very definition of "stay-at-home dad" is also up for debate. The Census Bureau defines the term very narrowly, excluding same-sex partners, single dads and parents of kids who are older than 15, as well the fathers in families where both parents do not work.

Our analysis used a broader definition: any father who's been unemployed for at least a year, and who is also at home with a child or children under 18. With this approach, we sought to replicate the methodology used by the Pew Research Center in a 2014 report.


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Son Posts Incredible Video Of His Mother To Help Her Find 'The One'

Meet Eva. Not only is she an incredibly eligible 69-year-old Norwegian, she is also mother to one of the sweetest sons ever.

Eva's son, Alex Lyngaas, took it upon himself to find love for his single mother by putting together a totally compelling dating ad for her, in the form of a clever video. The inspiration came after Eva went through her second divorce a few years back, Lyngaas told The Huffington Post. Lyngaas and his brother pushed her to start online dating but after nothing worked out, she was left disheartened. "It even got to the point where she started saying things like 'I don't know why anyone would want to date me anyway.' That’s when I decided to put together a little video of all the inspiring footage I've accumulated of her over the years, to show her how truly awesome she is," he said.

The video, called "Looking for Adam,"
-- a play on his mother's name -- was something Lyngaas says he compiled with short film snippets over a year, without his mother ever finding out.

He posted the final video on YouTube this Mother's Day, including his mother's shocked reaction. It's already gotten over 375,000 views and many, many responses to the ad via an address he set up for suitors to reach out to his mom.

"The inbox is exploding," Lyngaas said. "Mother is overwhelmed, possibly in shock, but luckily (mostly) in a good way. I hope it will end in a happy love story for my mom. I genuinely believe she’s a total catch." We couldn't agree more.

Could you be her Adam? E-mail icouldbeadam@gmail.com if you think so.

Here's wishing Eva the best of luck on her search.




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99-Year-Old Indiana Woman Receives High School Diploma 8 Decades After Leaving School

An Indiana woman who will turn 100 years old later this month has received her high school diploma more than eight decades after she originally was supposed to graduate.

Lora Lois LeMond White Hardy received the certificate Tuesday evening at the Anderson Community Schools board of trustees meeting.

Hardy needed just four more credits to earn her diploma from Anderson High School in 1933 — at the height of the Great Depression — when she was forced to quit school and work at a company owned by General Motors to help support her family, which included seven younger siblings, The (Anderson) Herald Bulletin reported.

"I lacked four credits when my dad got sick," she said. "I got a job at Delco, and that was about as good as you could hope for back then."

Hardy initially worked on an assembly line making car horns. She retired from the automotive company more than 40 years later, in 1976.

"She has stated that her biggest regret in life is that she was not able to complete high school and earn her diploma," Superintendent Terry Thompson said.

Hardy, who lives in Florida, returned to central Indiana to receive her diploma. But she wasn't aware that a ceremony would be held to commemorate the occasion.

"I knew I was going to get the diploma, but I had no idea it would be all this," she said.

As Hardy sat in the front row of the board meeting, wearing a traditional cap and gown, Thompson presented her with a bouquet of flowers and the long-awaited certificate. Family, friends and other attendees stood and clapped as she read over the honorary diploma.

Hardy will celebrate her 100th birthday on May 28.

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U.S. House Takes Up Abortion Ban That Could Challenge Roe v. Wade

Kate Williams was 21 weeks pregnant in 2011 when she had an ultrasound anatomy scan to check on the progress of her baby. The news was not good: Her unborn son had Potter syndrome, a fatal condition in which the kidneys fail to develop in the womb.

The doctor told Williams, then 31, that her baby had no kidneys and no bladder and would not develop lungs, and there was very little amniotic fluid left to support his life. She was told she could either choose to induce labor right then and go through a full delivery, only to have the baby die in the process, or she could undergo anesthesia and have an abortion procedure.

"I was absolutely devastated to get that news," Williams told The Huffington Post in an interview. "I called my regular OB-GYN to discuss with her if there was any chance this might not be true. But she looked at the ultrasounds and told me, 'No, this is the situation.'"

Williams, a retail store manager with a 9-month-old son at the time, decided to have the abortion procedure to avoid having to go through the labor and delivery. Because she lives in Philadelphia, where there are abortion providers who are trained to perform the second-trimester procedure, and because the abortion was covered by her insurance, she could afford to make that choice. "If I wasn't in Philadelphia, who knows where I would have had to go," she said.

The U.S. House of Representatives is expected to pass a bill on Wednesday that would ban the procedure Williams chose to have. The so-called Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act aims to prohibit doctors from performing abortions after 20 weeks of pregnancy, except in cases of rape, incest or when the mother's life is in danger. There is no exception for severe fetal anomalies, and the bill requires a neonatal doctor to try to save the fetus if there is any chance it could survive outside the womb.

Republicans claim the 20-week limit is based on the disputed theory that fetuses can feel pain at that point in their development.

"This is a vote all of us will remember forever, and it will be considered in the annals of history, and I believe the counsels of eternity itself," said Rep. Trent Franks (R-Ariz.), the author of the bill, on the House floor Wednesday. "But it shouldn’t be such a hard vote. Protecting little pain-capable unborn children and their mothers is not a Republican issue, or a Democrat issue. It is a test of our basic humanity and who we are as a human family."

House Republicans tried to pass the bill earlier this year, but they had to cancel the vote unexpectedly after a group of GOP women voiced their concerns that the rape exception was too narrow. The original bill required a woman to have reported her rape to the police in order to qualify for the exemption, but lawmakers have since tweaked it to say that a woman who has been raped must seek counseling or medical care at some point in the 48 hours before the abortion.

Anti-abortion activists hope the 20-week abortion ban will be their opening to challenge and ultimately overturn Roe v. Wade, the Supreme Court's landmark abortion rights decision. The high court ruled in 1973 that laws cannot interfere with a woman's right to have an abortion before the fetus would be viable outside the womb, around the 22- to 24-week mark. This legislation would establish a limit at a point several weeks earlier than that. "Our belief is that this bill, in particular, would be upheld by the court," said Marjorie Dannenfelser, president of the anti-abortion group Susan B. Anthony List.

Abortions after 20 weeks are extremely rare, accounting for only about 1 percent of all abortions. Opponents of the legislation worry that it will hurt women like Williams who discover severe medical problems late into their pregnancies.

"This bill would deny abortion care to a woman even if her health care provider determined that abortion care was her best medical option," said Vicki Saporta, president of the National Abortion Federation. "It would also force a woman to wait until severe medical conditions became life-threatening before she could obtain the abortion care she needed."

The bill has little chance of becoming law this year. If Senate Democrats fail to block it, President Barack Obama will likely veto it. But the legislation is gaining momentum: Every single 2016 GOP presidential candidate has endorsed it, and 10 Republican-controlled state legislatures have already passed it into law. With a different administration after 2016, the abortion limit could easily become the law of the land.

Williams, who now has two healthy children, said she will be watching the legislation closely as it moves through Congress. "It doesn't make sense to me," she said. "Women in my situation or in any situation should not be forced to carry a pregnancy to term."

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Men's Rights Activists Don't Want You To See 'Mad Max'

Mens rights activists have given you another reason to get excited to see "Mad Max: Fury Road." On a blog called Return of Kings, mens rights activist Aaron Clarey asks men to boycott the film because of all the feminist propaganda. Cool, bro.

He wrote that male movie-goers should "not only REFUSE to see the movie, but spread the word to as many men as possible." Clarey continued:

Because if they sheepishly attend and 'Fury Road' is a blockbuster, then you, me, and all the other men (and real women) in the world will never be able to see a real action movie ever again that doesn’t contain some damn political lecture or moray about feminism, SJW-ing, and socialism.

[...] men in America and around the world are going to be duped by explosions, fire tornadoes, and desert raiders into seeing what is guaranteed to be nothing more than feminist propaganda, while at the same time being insulted AND tricked into viewing a piece of American culture ruined and rewritten right in front of their very eyes.


Right. Sure.

He also called Hollywood a "garbage propaganda machine which spews out this feminist drivel filth." Seems like someone hasn't looked into the way Hollywood treats female directors, hmmm? "Even though science has told us and proven, that men are physically stronger than women, it is nonetheless discarded by the forces driving this feminist nonsense."

According to early reviews, however, "Mad Max: Fury Road" is excellent. HitFix's Drew McWeeny called it "as good as action movies get," while Slate's Dana Stevens says, "Come for the feminist empowerment, stay for the tricked-out nightmare doomcars." Sounds like a plan.

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Why Abortion Rights For Boko Haram Rape Survivors In Nigeria Are Vital

The Nigerian military has freed hundreds of Nigerian women and girls who were being held by Boko Haram militants in recent weeks. The militants have kidnapped at least 2,000 women and girls since the start of 2014 and according to rights groups they have forced many of the hostages into sexual slavery.

In an article this week in Cosmopolitan magazine, senior political writer Jill Filipovic investigates the lack of access to safe abortions in Nigeria and the rights of rape survivors. Filipovic sat down with HuffPost Live's Alyona Minkovski on Tuesday.

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Tom Brokaw: We Can't Fulfill America's Promise If We Are Blinded By Color

Tom Brokaw gave a commencement speech at High Point University on Saturday focusing on the nation that graduates inherited from "the Greatest Generation," those who fought in World War II.

He reminded graduates that they have the rights and responsibility to spread "American ideals and culture" and to not be afraid "to be disruptive; find new ways to do the conventional and the useful; and don’t run from big and bold challenges."

Brokaw spoke about the cultural progress this generation has made and should continue to press on, including gender and racial equality.

"Be the generation that sees a friend or a stranger for who they are, and not just for the color of their skin," Brokaw said. "We can never completely fulfill the promise of this treasured republic if we are blinded by color.”

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This Is How You Make Socks And Sandals Look Cool. Yes, It's Possible.

When people hear the words "socks and sandals," they think of an extremely awkward horrorshow normally found on the feet of tourists and grandfathers.

But we're here to tell you that you this often-feared combo can actually be very trendy, and socks and sandals have been banished for too long. If you thought they were fashion's biggest faux pas, think again -- now is finally the time to turn this fashion don't into a fashion do.

If you don't believe us, we'll give you some proof. First of all, they've appeared all over the runway:

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And all over the streets:

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And if we still haven't convinced you, let us appeal to your practical side: Not only are socks and sandals a smart idea for tricky transition weather, but they are also a painless way to break in new shoes (leave those Band-Aids at home, people).

So, are you a socks and sandals convert? If so, shop some of our favorite options below. Welcome to the dark side.

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There Are Lots Of Ways To Get More Women Elected To Office. Just Ask The Rest Of The World.

WASHINGTON -- Even as Hillary Clinton solidifies her grasp on her party’s nomination for president, women remain dramatically underrepresented in American politics, holding only 20 percent of the seats in Congress and just six out of the 50 governorships.

Despite gains in 2014, there are still 94 countries, including Saudi Arabia, Zimbabwe and Afghanistan, with higher percentages of female officeholders than the U.S.

To turn the tide, the U.S. can and should take cues from countries that have succeeded in increasing their percentage of female politicians, according to experts who spoke Tuesday at a panel convened by the Federal Election Commission. Public financing, proportional representation plans and better work-life balance for legislators could all help move the United States toward a more equitable distribution of power, the panelists said.

"In Latin America, we tend to have a public financing system, in which the government or the state allocates part of the national budget specifically for the financing of campaigns," said Betilde Munoz Pogossian, an elections expert with the Organization of American States. She said that a public financing system can also be used to reward political parties that include more women on their slates of candidates.

Having some sort of public financing system also benefits other underrepresented groups, said Pippa Norris, a lecturer at Harvard University's Kennedy School of Government.

"The more hurdles you have to overcome to raise money," said Norris, "the more difficult it is for any candidate who is outside of that network [to win an election], be it indigenous groups or any other rural communities who don't have the network resources."

While public financing for U.S. presidential campaigns has faded into obscurity in the post-Citizens United era, some states, including Connecticut and Maine, are working on new ways to allot public funds to candidates to help put them on par with opponents funded by super PACs.

Countries that use proportional representation systems, in which parties win a certain number of seats based on vote tallies and then assign those seats to chosen candidates, tend to elect more women than countries that use the single-member district system that dominates U.S. elections, Norris noted.

Even so, she said, a district election system "is not an inseparable barrier" to equal representation.

"To give you an example," she said, "Britain has a 'first past the post' [system] just like the United States, and we just had the election. I am delighted to say the proportion of women in Britain has gone up from a quarter to 30 percent... and we have gone up in rank from 59 to 35." Norris added that Britain was "not yet with Rwanda," which is ranked No. 1 in the world for female representation, but that it was still "doing quite well."

U.S. parties could do more to recruit women, said Darren Rosenblum, a professor at Pace Law School. But he argued that they’re already making some progress, in particular citing recent efforts by the Republican National Committee. "The RNC's projects on women are a great example of what can be done," he said.

Facing mounting pressure to win over more female voters, the GOP has launched a number of programs in recent years with the aim of energizing Republican women, including the "14 in '14" campaign -- an effort this past November to mobilize networks of female volunteers in the 14 weeks leading up to the midterm elections. Female candidates in states like Iowa and West Virginia were key to the GOP winning a majority in the Senate last year.

Such partywide initiatives, said Rosenblum, might actually benefit the GOP more than they would Democrats, who are currently viewed as the party more responsive to women's issues. "If Republicans had more women candidates, that might lead to a balancing" of voters' perceptions, he said.

Moving beyond candidates and elections, "the question of how we sustain women who are already elected to office" is a thorny one, said Marni Allen, director of Political Parity, a nonprofit that works to increase women’s political representation. Allen noted that other countries do more to accommodate legislators’ work-life balance.

"It's not a common part of the conversation in American politics," she said. "But it has a dramatic impact on men and women, and if we see more women in political office, and we want their spouses to be able to provide that support at home, it's very difficult if that spouse is expected to be in the office until 7, 8 at night."

One bright spot, Allen said, is in New England.

"The New Hampshire legislature has really been a breeding ground for women,” she said. “Part of that is that the women have come together and sort of provided the child care and support for one another, and when somebody had a committee hearing, they tried to limit the hours." Both of New Hampshire's senators are women -- Kelly Ayotte (R) and Jeanne Shaheen (D) -- as is the governor, Democrat Maggie Hassan.

"There are things that can be done around how the legislatures function that can improve women's ability to stay in, or to enter in at a younger level," said Allen, "so they can reach the seniority which really helps them to have an impact."

Multiple strategies will probably be necessary to increase the share of female officeholders in the U.S., the panelists said Tuesday.

But some conservatives are criticizing the FEC for even holding the discussion.

"The Federal Election Commission should not put its thumb on the scale for female candidates," wrote Karin Agness, founder of the Network of Enlightened Women, a conservative women's group, in U.S. News & World Report on Tuesday.

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